The Importance of the Male Makeover
Have a man but you want to tweak his look? Well… this could either be extremely easy or result in divorce. But hey, you only live once, right?
Some of us have luck with delivering a suggestion flirtatiously or asking ever so gently if he would trim his beard or change his wardrobe, especially if we pay for it but there are many cases where you could be met with resistance. He could potentially be offended wondering why his appearance is such a concern to you all of a sudden. But it matters especially if you are keeping your end of the bargain to maintain yourself. So how do you approach this delicate matter without causing the dude to withdraw or become resentful?
Most men fit into one of two categories. Category A: Guys who don’t mind being told what to do. Category B: Guys who hate being told what to do. If you are attracted to strong ambitious types then chances are, you ended up with category B. Those dudes are like hunters and may instinctively take any suggestions about their appearance as an attack on their manhood. You probably won’t be able to pull off a full makeover, but you can make subtle changes over time. As long as you are not nаggіng your man as if you were his mother, you should be able to pull this off. Men don’t like being treated like little bоуѕ and he could very well clap back with some suggestions for you as well.
Focus on the Positive
Make sure that this dude knows that you adore him and that you are proud to be in a relationship with him. If he is actively showing you that he loves you, then you will have to pick and choose your battles. Start with one suggestion and see how it goes. Do you want him to try growing a beard? Has it been too long since he has had a haircut? Does he really need a pedicure because his feet scare you? Would you like for him to hit the gym a few times a week? These are all situations that can land you in the doghouse if not handled respectfully. Focus on everything you like about him before attempting to make any changes.
Get Involved with the Process
Simply telling your guy to dress better isn’t going to work. Go to the store with him. Consult a stylist together. Often guys are focused on other things and may not have time to find a new barber or go shopping for themselves. Or when they do, they aren’t focused on the details. Without overstepping boundaries, try looking for stores or barbershops in your area and collect photos of styles that you think would look great on him. Invite him to get photos of looks as well. Maybe there is a look he has always wanted to try and never had the motivation until you said something.
If He Tells You to Back Off
Respect that. Let him do his thing for a bit and eventually he will come around. There will be an event or something where he will need to buy something or he will have to look spruced up. That will be your moment to jump into action. He will ask you for your opinion. Let him have it without coming off as evil.
If He Makes the Change
If he makes the change, be sure to douse him in compliments and kisses. It will encourage him to maintain it, otherwise it’s back to square one. In the event that he makes the change and it doesn’t quite work out the way you had hoped, still give him the compliments. Hair grows back, and clothing is always going on sale. You can keep making different suggestions over time. And if you realize you don’t know what you are doing or talking about, consult a friend.
If You Dish It, You Gotta Take It
As I joked earlier, you may open the door for him to give you some suggestions. You need to be prepared for that. If you want him to get rid of his gut, you should try to get rid of yours. If you want him to shave his chest and he asks you to get bangs, you need to be at least open to it. In any relationship, it is important to remain sexy for each other, so, if anything, have the conversation and see where the changes can happen.